I hope it’s been said often enough by now that it really doesn’t need to be said, though I will: gender presentation/orientation/kink and sexual orientation are two different things. I know that, and hopefully you do, too!

That means that there’s nothing unusual about a sissy who retains he/r sexual attraction to women, or even only to women, though sissified.

For the gurl who intends to keep he/r feminization behind closed doors rather than presenting full-time, this can cause a bit of a conundrum: how and when should s/he tell a prospective girlfriend about he/r sissy self?

Should s/he tell?

And if s/he should, what should s/he say?

I thought I might be able to cover this topic in one post at first, but there are a few ins and outs that ended up stretching things beyond what was manageable for one post if I truly wanted to do the topic justice. So W/e’ll start at the beginning, and you’ll just need to stay tuned for future posts, coming soon.

Okay?

A question from a recent sissy pet

You have My sissy Jaimie to thank for the inspiration to write this post. S/he has since moved past this being an issue for he/r, as s/he has discovered that playtime with Mistress and exploring he/r interest in real men is more than enough for he/r for now. S/he did, however, pose this question to Me in the early stages of Our getting to know each other, and I feel that positing My particular advice might still be helpful to some of you.

I’ll tell you, therefore, what I ended up telling h/er, and more. I don’t think s/he’s given up on women completely. It’s just that he/r interest in men is so strong right now that it pales in comparison and renders the opinions of any woman except for Mistress Rachel irrelevant. The same may be true for some of you, but there are still answers for you if it’s not.

Inclusive of women, exclusive to women, or truthfully, ambivalent?

This is what’s important to discern, first of all.

How would you describe yourself? Really, give this some thought. Are you what I call a sissy dyke? A gurl who has no interest in males whatsoever, and is exclusively attracted to women, along with the desire to emulate them? Or are you attracted to both men and women sexually, such that it would be a hardship to choose between them? Or, do you enjoy women as friends and mentors, but men for sex? And still another option: the grey areas, of which there usually are.

Well, the easiest advice regards the second-to-last designation: What do you care if a woman you’re not even interested in sexually rejects your acquaintance for being a sissy? You’ve got the whole universe of LDW Mistresses to have as friends and to come to for advice, even about men!

But what if you still hope to date women in some capacity?

Well, it depends.

Stay tuned for part 2, where I expound on the above!

xoxo

Miss Rachel, Your Favorite Sissy BFF!

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