Are you looking for ways to be a submissive sissy to your partner when she doesn’t even know? Most people call us because their partner doesn’t know, understand and/or like this side of you. That makes me sad. I adore feminization!

You don’t have to be a submissive sissy in secret with me. Feminization is a frequent topic on the BDSM, kink podcast I do with Ms Erika. Here’s one about sissy training questions but there are many more episode about being a sissy, crossdresser or trans.


She doesn’t have to know you’re a submissive sissy

Sissy Mistress Olivia 1-800-601-7259Your real life partner doesn’t have to know you like to wear women’s clothes. There are a lot of people who call for Distance Domination, phone sex or erotic conversations in order to explore and enjoy a side that they do NOT want to share with a face to face partner.

It’s okay to have sex secrets or compartmentalize some of your erotic desires. Sometimes the secret itself is a huge erotic trigger. For example, does this quote from a cock curious sissy sound like you?

“’I’m married to a beautiful woman who would be mortified by the idea of me thinking, talking, and perhaps acting on my BBC obsession. Although the idea of her catching me with a cock balls deep in my mouth is both shameful and a huge turn on.”

Erotic humiliation fantasy versus reality

Part of the huge turn on is from erotic humiliation or, perhaps, the anxious thrill of being exposed as a sissy. This is very common for people who are married and especially for those who married before they even fully realized (or admitted) their kinky side. Save the roller coaster of emotions for your play with your Mistress.


Try these 3 things to be a discreetly submissive sissy

Let’s start with what NOT to do. Do not under any circumstances let your horny self blow up your life. Edge play is exciting but get with a Mistress who can do it and still keep you safe. There’s nothing exciting about divorce court.


Become a service submissive sissy

You might want to do household chores in a frilly maids dress. Don’t do it unless you’re alone or your partner knows what you’re doing.

You can ACT like a service submissive sissy by doing things for her. For example, start doing chores you don’t already do. Do all chores with a sissy mindset. Maybe you can even wear a pair of silky panties under your clothes while you tidy up. Why not bring her coffee in bed? If she likes flowers, bring her flowers at random times (and not because you screwed up). Take her clothes to the dry cleaners, polish her dress shoes and boots, or even do all the kitchen clean up.

Any submissive should be doing many of these things already. If you are already doing the “feminine role” then just do more. It’s very important that you do this consistently, not just when you’re horny.


Introduce your feminization gradually

secret sissy tips from Experienced Mistress Olivia 1-800-601-6975There are many products that women use that are now being sold in more gender neutral options. Start with things like body lotion and body wash. You might want a hot pink bath poof and ultra flowery bath gel but don’t do it! I urge you to start with something like a pastel purple bath poof and body wash that is lightly scented. I love Dr. Bronners liquid soap in peppermint or eucalyptus. If you want some specific suggestions just for you, send me an email: Olivia AT


Go to the salon for a mani/pedi

This is a unisex activity. If you know she’s not going to see your toenails then get them painted a cute feminine color. If you’re nervous about that just get your nails trimmed, shaped and buffed. The cuticle care and lotion feel so good! You ‘can’ invite your wife to come with you. She might say no but then again she might say yes. Be casual when you ask her. You might find you’ll end up doing this feminine activity together.

The key to bringing your feminization into a relationship is to be gradual and pay attention to her reactions. If you need to have structure in your feminization – take a look at the 30-day Feminization calendar and trance audio I did with Ms Erika

We also did the 30 day Sissy Challenge calendar and trance audio. The submissive sissy training is much more sexual and overt but there are still some very hot things you can do in the privacy of, say your delightfully scented shower.

The Weekly Hot Spot podcast BDSM kink fetish Experienced Mistress Olivia 1-800-601-6975Remember, there are lots of sissy training and feminization episodes on our sexuality podcast,The Weekly Hot Spot. You can be part of the conversation and/or listen to the girl talk.

Now, my question for you:

What is your biggest challenge as a sissy, crossdresser or gender fluid person?

I’d love to get to know you better. Get in touch via email: olivia AT or call 1-800-601-7259.

Your Experienced Mistress,

Ms Olivia

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